We all know just how hard it is to stay motivated in life. There are continuous knockdowns and challenges, some of which leave a scar on us that never really heals. But as with scars just because something in life may have left a mark on you, it doesn’t have to define you.
I have many scars from years of being careless, but none of these scars have affected my ability to move, to take action; if anything they have simply taught me something. Personal scars can cut deep into our being. Some can teach us, while others will simply hurt us, but in the process mould us, give us the empathy we otherwise my never have gained. Some scars are deeper, we may lose a limb, lose the ability to walk, talk or hear, felt we’ve failed, lost our job, lost money, lost a loved one, felt embarrassed or been ridiculed beyond reason, but although those scars are hard to accept sometimes, we do work through them, and even succeed in ways we won’t have even thought about without them.
Don’t let past scars define your future; find something that excites you. Keep searching and setting yourself ambitious goals. We will experience times when we feel lacklustre and depleted, when we lack motivation, but what matters is that we keep going. We keep striving, working out a different way, looking for other options to get us to our end goal.
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how’” Frederick Nietzsche (German philosopher)
Your “why” is the thing that motivates you to get up every morning and work a little harder to get a little better. If we have enough “why’s” we can achieve pretty much anything. Tony Robbins likens it to a table . Your table needs enough legs (“reasons”) to support your decisions. If we attempt to make a large change in our lives without having enough reasons to support our decision we could and generally do fall short.
An example of this could be to run a marathon. Running a marathon with suffice training is never fun, so simply wanting to run a marathon generally won’t be enough to support the effort it will take. I chose to run a marathon for the following reasons
- To get healthy
- To lose weight
- To hopefully live longer
- To look younger
- It is a great athletic achievement
- Running makes you happier
To give up smoking I needed plenty of “legs” to support that table;
- I hated “having” to do anything and as a smoker I felt I had to smoke
- I hated spending so much money on cigarettes
- I didn’t want to die from the many diseases smoking can cause
- I didn’t want to smell like an ashtray anymore
- I wanted to get fit and as a smoker that was never going to happen
- I wanted to look younger and live longer
So really, motivation stems from our reasons and why’s. Find your reasons for doing something, write them down and then read them many times a day.
Motivation – some reminders:
- Don’t wait for opportunity. Create it.
- Ambition is the first step to success. The second step is action.
- Failure is not the opposite of success. It is a huge part of it.
- Mistakes are just proof that you are trying.
- Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
- You don’t want to look back and wish you had tried harder.
- A negative mind will never allow your true motivation to get through.
Inspiration will work wonders upon your motivation. Find the right people who inspire you. Model their path, their mind-set.